In A Relationship? Please Don’t Crave For Another Person.

It all started quite well when you could do virtually nothing without each other. Everything you did, your partner was well aware and had to have a say in it even before you embarked on it. Suddenly, in the pass of time, things seem to take a different direction and none of you realize that so soon things are getting out of hand. Granted, both of you have a hand in this yet to befall scenario and I am sure you are not going to like it especially now that it touches your inner soul. It will demoralize you to the letter. What are the signs of this predicament?

 

1. Complaints

Have you witnessed complaints recently at times, on petty things? Who removed the key from the padlock, why is the house untidy, why did you replace the guard without consulting; where have you been since then and such like. By any means, I am not suggesting that those questions are bad. What I am implying is that they are asked at a wrong time as an ambush. These are noble concerns especially in a permanent union. But it is good to differentiate a concern and unending complaints and tantrums.

2. Monitoring 

Wondering what and who is to be monitored? The answer is you and your communication via your mobile phone, emails and those friends in the social media. Granted, in marriage, you are no longer two but one. In as much as I will agree with those sentiments, it is good to remember that freedom, responsibility and trust are paramount in any given relationship. Therefore, in order to foster a peaceful relationship, I recommend that you fully trust your partner and accord your mate the respect deserved without infringing one’s privacy. After all, don’t you feel the same should be done to you? Yes.

3. Emptiness

The craving for another person may emanate from your heart and it might be difficult to control it if it has reached that point. All is not lost. It is a high time that you sit back and reflect on the good old days when your partner was everything that you thought of around the clock. Besides, would you not like to be treated with much love, care and loyalty? These are qualities that every person in a relationship longs for. That being the case, it is bad manners even wrong to start eying another person besides your mate.

4. Know yourself

I would rather suggest that you sit back and reexamine yourself in a bid to get back your relationship that is seemingly slipping out of your hands. By the way, do you know how many people are yearning for that woman, yes that man that you are about to discard as an empty vessel?

5. Remain inside

 If it cost you time and perhaps money back then to get what you have, be sure that the price is now too high that you may not be able to afford. It is understood though, if you are not sure of yourself. If that is the case, remember that you are already in a relationship. Trying to impress other people outside your relationship is walking on a slippery ground. You will definitely fall.