Why People Engage in Extramarital Relationship

Love started when they both stormed into each other’s face in this shopping mall down in the coast. That time, the guy was doing his diploma studies in IT at a local polytechnic in the area, and the lady had just come from the city to visit her aunt who by then was working with the fisheries department. Hardly did they know that for subsequent years, they will exchange numbers and chat the whole night on social media as long as they would be able to keep the conversation alive and at the end, get in a serious relationship.

For many, this is not a story that belongs to someone else but a real thing that happen to them every other day. Whichever the situation, this is what happened to this couple whose love live started like a little fire that later engulfed the entire field stretching to the neighbour’s thus their relationship has gone sour after wadding in the love mainstream for a couple of years.

You may be surprised to realize that such scenarios happen in our neighbourhood’s day in day out. Hardly do people take emphasis about this until it involves you and loved one. So it touches you and me. Whatever happens, you are not justified to go for a second affair lest you are likely to lose even what you have. It would be wise to focus on how to mend such loop holes that are about to get you out of the love of your heart. After all, nobody will ever like to lose what they have worked for a long time. If such things happen to you, take time to meditate and see whether indeed there is a need to forge another love. It would be ideal then that we reexamine ourselves again.

Every cloud has a silver lining says an old adage. Your home and family should be a shaven where you find leisure and pleasure whenever you want it. This will happen to you no matter what has happened so far. Therefore, it all depends on how much you can do in as much as things seem to have gone astray. When you first saw each other, you went ahead and promised to love one other and the more you spent time in travelling to your best destinations in the world if you ever did, bought presents to your mate; learnt to do some things together, some of which you did not even know, meant that you have created time for the only one you loved. What has made the changes that you no longer want to see the one you once held to your bosom should not escalate beyond here. In just a day you became a gourmet because you thought this could impress your mate. All this was in a bid to enhance your love for your new catch. Whatever happened can be mended to suit both of you. It is not too late to seek to redress and repair your in house granted you do not employ mundane excuses.

You can always find a way out of that difficult situation in your life. Talking to a counselor is the best way to start. But even before you do that, you might be forced to give it another approach of perusing different pages that are believed to have relevant information. Another way that will definitely be of help to you is to create time for your mate. This time should be dedicated top listening to your mate as they tell their take on the topic at hand; as you intently follow what they have to say that is rendering your love unbearable for both of you. During this important time in your live when trying to revamp your love, the value should be given to knowing what hurts your mate and not who has done what. The blame game does not help any of you in this stage.

It is of good help if you still see your mate as the only one that has ever existed. This type of thinking will help you have an attitude of loving them forever since there is no one to replace them no matter what happened. I am not endorsing any sense of brutality in my sentiments but you may likely see some sense in all that you will do regarding your mate. You will do yourself a favour if only you realize that since you met your current mate many years ago, time has run so fast. In fact you are getting older everyday never to go back to where you met those heydays. Do all you can to love and maintain your mate for they are all the same. No one is an angel but you can have yours today.