How Guardians Have Turned Against Their Own

What really has gone wrong where? There are people that have been entrusted with the responsibility of helping our young ones and offering them the best help, care and the motivation that they rightly deserve. Usually, this is a lofty responsibility that many yearn for without let up. Unfortunately, a number that we are about to witness, have fallen way too short of this dignified responsibility and turned predators of their own blood. What am I talking about?

 

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A 64 year old man, sleeping with her bed ridden 14 year old daughter and if you think that is enough for the lady, she gets pregnancy from her own father. Another man slept repeatedly with his wife and daughter in different times of the day and night, but at the end of it all, impregnates both of them and it turns a shock to many, when both deliver at the same time.

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Elsewhere, a man who should be a care-giver to his children, rapes his 6 and 9 year old daughters and infects them with AIDS. You may ask where their mother was. The man’s wife died of HIV.

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These are common people in the society you may say. Others that are expected to behave indifferently have also shocked a multitude. For example, a police officer enticed  2 and 5 year old girls with biscuits and raped them. The same officer does not stop there but goes ahead and molests a 7 year old boy. Honestly, on whose bosom will our young ones rest?

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The clergy are not left out of this either. A pastor repeatedly rapes his 12 and 15 year old daughters in a rather weird experience. Upon realizing that the older girl is carrying her husband’s pregnancy, her mother terminates the pregnancy without the daughter’s approval.

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When will this pay day be? If this people failed to gather but rather scatter their sons and daughters, who will? You have the answer.

Sex Is Meant For Who And How?

Some couples are too young.

The answer to the above question depends on who you are. Granted, I am not the one to judge whether sex is there for you or for someone else who you are not. But I still believe that as we engage in such a healthy dialogue, we will get to a point at which we can help each other get the answer to that seemingly silly question as many have deemed it to be.

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Before you also answer that question based on what you may believe that is the true answer, which at this point I do not object, why don’t we have a common ground? With that, be sure that we are heading somewhere. Before we go further, first things always come first. Sexual intercourse is for couples.

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Whether you were brought up in a family that condoned love affairs for people that are not in a marriage union or not, it’s healthy to discern that sex is typically designed for marriage mates to enjoy legitimate intimate affairs. Even in this union that is approved by the Almighty, sex is not just done carelessly. By that I mean sex is not to be done whatever way you feel. A few guidelines therefore are paramount.

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Since it is meant for both partners to enjoy, mutual concept is the key lest that will turn to be something else. Your husband will enjoy the love play only if you present it to him without grudge and indignation. Never exchange your sex for presents from your husband. After all, will it be really logic if you did so? How many presents would you have received if that ever worked?

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As a man, you need to put away your ego in order for you to enjoy sex in your marriage. There are good times that you are likely to enjoy your woman right to the core of your heart from whatever place as long as it is in your home. This is especially is you do your best to arouse your partner to reach her orgasm. Doing this from the earlier times of the day can yield good results later when both of you are ready for the act.

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A couple sun bathing on a tropical climate.

There will be a few times however that will prove challenging to both of you. The world’s economic constraints that torment us every other day, families to take care of, job insecurity, personal problems; health issues and the monthly menstrual cycle that befall women to mention but a few. When the latter happen, especially if the man is health and sound, it can pose a challenge on your patience and endurance. Will you wait until she is done with her filth? That is the question.

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I advice that you agree in advance, that when that happens, you are sure to wait until she is done with her periods. After all, you have over 20 days to enjoy your partner. When all this is done, be sure to enjoy sex in its right place-marriage. It is your matrimonial right, so have it to the full without infringing your partner’s rights.

Who Is a Gentleman?

                                                                                                

CLEAN water is crystal clear with less or no odor at all. A rainbow is evident from its distinct colors. The sun is so bright in a broad day light that no human eye can dare to gaze at its illumination. These examples just tell us exactly what other things are really like no matter where or who you are.

 

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In the world around however, people’s traits differ greatly from one person to the other. All these are inevitable. Human beings were created with diverse abilities that all put together blend to become a perfect yet complex society that we live in. That is man. These behaviors are distinct yet important in one way or another. Others have strange traits, unique, appealing qualities that many admire; and still others show weird behaviors that amaze a multitude.

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All these are crucial in our everyday life and hardly can we escape from these traits especially those that are with a majority. We can however find some reason of joy because there are those who have had a profound reputation right from childhood. If you belong to this group, or at least if this is what your friends say about you, you deserve my warmest commendations. I recognize that you have put effort to gain that reputation. I therefore recommend you to all the other readers.

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According to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary 7^th edition page 621, a gentleman is defined as a man who is polite and well educated and has excellent manners and always behaves well. As you can see, there are virtues associated with being gentle. The virtues mentioned herein are: politeness, good behavior and manners. These are lacking in the world around us.

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A lot though is expected of a gentleman. Right from the manner you handle yourself in the house, with your family however small it is, the way you treat your spouse, your children if any; your siblings, parents, friends, colleagues both male and female and especially the latter; your boss, subjects….. All these will show how gentle you really are. Bending low to reach a child’s hand that is not long enough to reach yours is a clear gesture of courtesy that many don’t show in your neighborhood.
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Containing your voice even when scoffed at is hard, but it can tell all about your personality. Sometimes people spend a lot of resources in putting up some things in order, and the unfortunate thing befalls, are you going to raise alarm so as the culprit looks stupid? If you do this, I am sure you will be depicted “Mr. Smart” but in reality you ruin your reputation. Even if you have been wronged and believe that you have a legitimate reason to argue, do so in a polite way lest you will be deemed unreasonable.

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Yes, you are a true gentleman if you are approachable and are able to share whatever little you have with those in need especially women and children. This is a noble and rewarding course for those who practice it. It can be to you too. Look at how those known as gentle in your area handle their matters and you will also be able to leave a legacy and who knows, you might be the “savior” of your next door neighbor and they will be grateful for you hence you will also be included in this group of gentlemen.

Does Your Church Ordain Women Priests?

These are not my views but from the Highest authority of the universe the founder and maker of man. Consider them carefully.

IT does not depend on which denomination you belong to in order to answer that question properly. If you think so, you are far from being right. Nonetheless, whichever group you associate with, has a profound impact on the manner you reason as regards to the topic at hand. It should be understood as earlier as this that the question of ordaining women pastors as we may call them, did not start today. It is an issue that has led to collapse in managerial responsibilities of major religious groups across the globe. Which way is the right way you may ask? Is there any directive from the Bible that we may follow? What is the Bible’s view of women as leaders? The excavator looks into all these concerns and comes up with a well thought answer that is not his but God’s.

 

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God’s Word the Bible does not give every directive as though it’s to a small child. In as much as we are God’s children, at times He deals with us according to our ability in our individual capacity. Taking up responsibilities in the congregation now, is not a dynasty as it used to be in Bible times. For instance, Eli and sons served as high priests and priests respectively representing their family until everyone ceased to be. Solomon succeeded his father David in the throne, but it was not so for Salomon's son. So in some instances, the Bible did allow for succession in the family royalty, but not at all times. Moses for example, the meekest man who ever lived, did not live to see any of his sons that Zipporah bore him to become leaders in Israel, but God directed matters otherwise to Joshua.

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Leaders back then represented Jehovah in their positions, but in spiritual offerings, there were anointed spiritual leaders who would do the job namely; high priests, priests and prophets and a few prophetesses like Hannah. However, in the 1^st century C.E, things took a drastic change for the best of the congregation. Starting with the gospel teachings, women were assigned a special position that would see them equal with their male counterparts in as much as equity was not the bone of contention. Women were allowed to preach as men were given the sole responsibility of taking the lead as heads. Therefore, women are only allowed to tell the good news of Jehovah’s Kingdom to the world, but men who are ordained as leaders do so in the congregation as teachers of the law. Not all men deserve this position of being elders in the congregation but those who meet spiritual standards mentioned in the book of 1^st Timothy 3:1-7, 8-13.

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Whereas the Bible directs men to pray before the congregation, women are advised to be submissive, silent; modest, be sensible and dress properly among other things. Thus, the Bible is more specific on their share in the congregation-1^st Timothy 2:8-11. Interestingly, the same book goes further to state categorically what women cannot do. “I do not allow them [women] to teach or have authority over men: they must keep silent.” Does this mean they are not regarded by the Bible? Not at all! Jehovah refers to all women who spread the good news as  a ‘large army’ that causes divisions among earthly kings and their armies, who upon experiencing divisions from within, fall apart.-Psalms 68:11,12. 

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Apart from spreading the good news to the members of the public, the Bible speaks favorably to women who have shown tremendous effort in helping their families grow. You may be aware of Eunice and Lois, mother and grandmother to 1^st century Bible student Timothy who later turned to be one of the pillars of Christianity. He was helped by these two strong ladies without the spiritual upkeep of a religious father. In the book of Proverbs, Solomon speaks of a capable woman who helps her family grow in many ways; how to buy and cultivate land, train her children, leading to praises from her husband and children. - Proverbs 31:10-31. 

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The same was emphasized by Christians who lived in the 1^st century when a new program of restructuring Christian teachings was in force. When the apostle Paul was writing Timothy his second letter, he admonished older women in the congregation, to teach young women on how to be good and responsible mothers and submissive wives to their respective husbands when their time comes. This is a course worth your time as a Christian lady. It is not meant to lower your dignity but to show the best position you occupy in the family and congregation structure that demand for the man to be the head. Men in turn should exercise their authority as directed by their head Christ Jesus. Why want more sisters?

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On top, a woman ordained pastor pre
siding over a congregation. Some denomi-
nations are now led by women pastors.

So, rather than engaging in wrangles as to whether women should be ordained as a priest or pastor, look up at Biblical examples of women who did  a great deal of work to assist Jehovah’s people in totally different faculties. For example, if you are a lady yearning to take lead among others or even among men, think of these examples: Sarah, Esther, Rebecca, Abigail, Rahab; Hannah, Ruth, Elizabeth, Mary, Triphosa, Lydia; Lois, Eunice and Dorcas just to mention a few. All these able ladies served God diligently but not as leaders. 

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In summing up the whole issue of church leadership that was then laid by the head of the Christian congregation Jesus Christ, the apostle Paul who turned an ardent follower of Christ’s teachings; after his miraculous conversion into ‘the way’ while heading for Damascus, issued this divine warning to Timothy. “Whoever teaches a different teaching and does not observe the true words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and with the teaching of our religion, is swollen with pride and knows nothing. He has an unhealthy desire to argue and quarrel about words, and this brings jealousy, disputes; insults, evil suspicions and constant arguments from people whose minds do not function and who no longer have the truth. They think that religion is a way to become rich."- 1^st Timothy 6:3-5 GNB. Don’t be among these.

Your Wife Is Likely To Leave You Soon, If You……….

Sounds like a threat? Oh! This is a reality in every sense. There are things that many people do around the world that when looked at from a different perception, will yield in good to others as much as they may have a profound negative implication on us. Nonetheless, these are things that have been here with us for as long as we have been alive. But honestly, if we sit back and reexamine ourselves, we then might realize that we hold other people’s lives at ransom. The penalty for this in ancient times would be tooth for tooth or eye for eye.

Thankfully, we don’t live in that “dark” era. Let us talk about what will make your wife yes legal wife leave you the sooner you never thought. Never should it be a surprise to you though, that not even she had this in mind. The catalyst has been you. How I wish you contained this in advance.  But I am sure even then whatever that you could be told, could not sink not mentioning the threats of sending her away whenever she could raise her voice it the quest of a listening ear.

Nevertheless, it is not yet late. But if this is what you continue doing without letup, beware of facing a catastrophic celibacy. After all, most of those you had left when you joined the “club” are still managing their singleness with all the difficulty and glamor that you enjoyed and endured then before climbing that social ladder. 

Your wife has for a long time complained that you don’t listen to her even consult on important family issues. If that is the case, it’s wise to ask yourself why you continue doing the same. Listening to your wife in as much as she might be newly married, is gentle of a man. You arguably become adorable before your wife when you consult in practically everything with your wife. After all, is she not your partner?  If she were your business associate, would you not sit down every evening to determine the direction of your business even share the profits? Your wife is more than a business partner. 

Courtesy in marriage is another thing that will definitely bind the two of you together. This though can be misused. If you continue viewing your wife as your child, my brother you are ruining your marriage. You r wife as well as your children are under you but she is never at the same position as them. Don’t scoff at your wife. If you don’t do this to your workmates, why would you do it to your closest friend? Shouting at your wife in front of your children will make her look inferior. This is something you wouldn’t like yourself.

Your wife wants you but you don’t have time for her feigning tight schedule in the office to meet deadlines, is a recurring challenge among men in the corporate world. But wait, what is your priority?  When you married, you were well aware that you had the job before she came into your life. How come now your job is more important that you do not have even a minute with your wife? She is now looking for a companion and you are complaining. There is still time brother to mend this big gap between you and your wife.

Before I come back with a full list of other behaviors that your wife believes are making it difficult to stay around, can you make some if not all of the necessary changes?