Guillotine A Friend or a Foe?

Taking someone’s life is a serious criminal offense in every community all over the world. Whether marginalized or not, human life has been regarded sacred in whatever region in the world. Since time memorial, sacred and religious books have considered that subject turbulent. 

In ancient Israel for example, it was very wrong to take someone’s life whether deliberate or by accident. Granted, if you did so for the latter reason, the high priest would ensure that you have the Godly amnesty that existed back then. The amnesty comprised cities of refuge that became homes to those that killed without intention until the high priest of the time of their going to these cities of refuge died. 

Those that deliberately killed their fellowmen were subjected to the same destiny-death. Stones were pelt onto them on a broad day light by fellow countrymen. Do you then think that God justified killing? On the contrary. He is the founder of life and He has every reason to determine who enjoys what He lovingly provides to His subjects. Since man was entrusted with conscience-in born ability of making judgment of right and wrong, one has to utilize that ability by making wise decisions. 

That law came to a sweet end in the 1^st century with the introduction of a new law that replaced many. The law was introduced by none other than Jesus Christ when he said that Love your God and your neighbor. That law has continued to govern the minds of many who believe in creation. Killing is murder and murder is criminal that is punishable by law in every land in the world. To that end, most countries that respect the rule of law and adhere to the revised version of the International Human Rights Act, would agree that guillotine is evil, inhuman, awkward; barbaric and backward.

Let us love one another in as much as we may differ. After all, what is wrong when people differ on principle? Even if not on that reason, at least you are at liberty to say, act whenever you want and wherever you are as long as you do not infringe other people’s rights. If you intrude, there are jails with massive walls and conditions that will guarantee you life but deter you for causing harm to your fellow humans.

Let us shun the merciless killing of our fellow human beings. Let us join hands and stop guillotine.

Five Biggest Mistakes Ladies Make On Dates

EVERYTHING is ready and well planned. The romantic evening candle light, soothing music, a perfect rendezvous and dinner has been set. You choose your perfect red dress to match with your sexy red spotted heels and the most enticing fragrance to delight your “suitor”. You want his attention, capture his interest and show Mr. “prince charming” just how perfect a woman you are. But the question is how you do it? Relationship experts lament that, it is not only what you do that day, but also what you do not that makes the difference between getting a phone call the next day and never hearing from the man again. On your next date avoid these five mistakes that will ruin your chance for romance.

 1. Baggage from past relationship

 In her book, You Deserve Healthy Love Sister, Dr. Grace Cornish says, “A lot of ladies bring baggage from old relationships into a new union expecting the same actions from the new guy. She will watch his every move, waiting for something to go wrong that will drive.” Simply put, the fastest way to make your guy run away from you is to constantly bring up difficulties in your life caused by others. No man wants to hear a woman complain about what a dog the other guy was. Think of this as a man; during a date a woman told you that you reminded her of a handsome boyfriend. Suddenly, she remembered all the heartache he caused her and the evening’s mood changed for the worse. Chances are, if a lady has a lot of drama in her life she will bring it into yours.

 2. Premature expectations

 After a few romantic dates, some ladies may start to be serious. Forcing a relationship that hasn’t developed, may prove detrimental. Give your man time to catch up with you emotionally and be aware that he may not feel exactly the way you feel. As a lady, remember chances are, if your current guy was dating before he met you, he probably didn’t stop because of you no matter how much you would like to think so. Women think that because they have fallen for you, that you feel the same way. They fail to realize that at least someone generally has to fall first. 

As a lady, you need to leave your guy reach to that point by his own, without being forced to make a decision prematurely. Most men prefer a drama-free life style. Ladies ought not to make a mistake of attempting to lay down the law too soon. Don’t be in a hurry to bring up what he will and won’t stand for when dating a man. Since it is too early lighten up my sister.

 3. Sex too soon 

Introducing intimacy into a relationship too quickly may be the quickest route to the demise of healthy long term relationship. It may be cliche but if a lady sleeps with a man too quickly, he won’t respect her. That is directly from many I have talked to and researched on. So, if the guy is worth it, let him wait. When sex is introduced in a relationship, it blows the dynamics off the weighing scale. Sex is too powerful in that it clouds all issues. In those early times, sex becomes the focus. After all, what do you share? It is a necessary ingredient and easily overshadows the process of getting to know each other. If you give in to sex too soon, you are likely not to know your guy better and vice versa. You will continue doing mistakes if you allow a great date or a series of dates to make your starry-eyed and swoon to the point that you go to bed with the guy too early.

 4. Focusing on his money 

The Hidden Lover, a book authored by William July II says, “The biggest issue guys have is being used or sneezed referring who accept dates simply to go out for a cup of coffee or dinner without paying.” These can be expensive proposition financially and emotionally. Today’s dating scene requires equality on both sides of the table. When a bill comes, both hands should be reaching, out for it. So he recommend: Go lunch, share the cheque. That way, the lady doesn’t feel that the guy is trying to owe him and the guy doesn’t feel that she is using him either. Nobody would want to show up in the first date on what he or she has, check stubs, bank statements and debit cards in hand.

 5. Pretending to be someone you are not 

No matter who you are trying to be, guys believe that the real you, is bound to come out. If you haste cooking don’t make a gourmet meal for date two, three or four. If you hate sports, don’t pretend you do by cuddling under my arm every evening during my favorite EPL match. You can only play superwoman for so long. When you have the inability to express your true identity, you lose your perceptive on who you are and how to act on your relationship. 

If you don’t know your own goals, you can’t effectively match yourself with a mate. Whatever you do, what is important for the success of a relationship to be is a mutual desire on the part of each person to have a true relationship. Both people should be committed. Both must share the same value, structure and goals in a relationship. By avoiding these mistakes and being honest with yourself and to your guy, happiness is likely to be just a date.

GOOD LUCK SISTER.

 Quick Easy Tips

 Do not display an attitude.

 Do not talk about your ex boyfriend.

 Do not ask for money.

 Do not wear your heart on your sleeve.

 Do not be overly interested on what he owns.

How Guardians Have Turned Against Their Own

What really has gone wrong where? There are people that have been entrusted with the responsibility of helping our young ones and offering them the best help, care and the motivation that they rightly deserve. Usually, this is a lofty responsibility that many yearn for without let up. Unfortunately, a number that we are about to witness, have fallen way too short of this dignified responsibility and turned predators of their own blood. What am I talking about?

 

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A 64 year old man, sleeping with her bed ridden 14 year old daughter and if you think that is enough for the lady, she gets pregnancy from her own father. Another man slept repeatedly with his wife and daughter in different times of the day and night, but at the end of it all, impregnates both of them and it turns a shock to many, when both deliver at the same time.

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Elsewhere, a man who should be a care-giver to his children, rapes his 6 and 9 year old daughters and infects them with AIDS. You may ask where their mother was. The man’s wife died of HIV.

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These are common people in the society you may say. Others that are expected to behave indifferently have also shocked a multitude. For example, a police officer enticed  2 and 5 year old girls with biscuits and raped them. The same officer does not stop there but goes ahead and molests a 7 year old boy. Honestly, on whose bosom will our young ones rest?

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The clergy are not left out of this either. A pastor repeatedly rapes his 12 and 15 year old daughters in a rather weird experience. Upon realizing that the older girl is carrying her husband’s pregnancy, her mother terminates the pregnancy without the daughter’s approval.

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When will this pay day be? If this people failed to gather but rather scatter their sons and daughters, who will? You have the answer.

Sex Is Meant For Who And How?

Some couples are too young.

The answer to the above question depends on who you are. Granted, I am not the one to judge whether sex is there for you or for someone else who you are not. But I still believe that as we engage in such a healthy dialogue, we will get to a point at which we can help each other get the answer to that seemingly silly question as many have deemed it to be.

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Before you also answer that question based on what you may believe that is the true answer, which at this point I do not object, why don’t we have a common ground? With that, be sure that we are heading somewhere. Before we go further, first things always come first. Sexual intercourse is for couples.

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Whether you were brought up in a family that condoned love affairs for people that are not in a marriage union or not, it’s healthy to discern that sex is typically designed for marriage mates to enjoy legitimate intimate affairs. Even in this union that is approved by the Almighty, sex is not just done carelessly. By that I mean sex is not to be done whatever way you feel. A few guidelines therefore are paramount.

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Since it is meant for both partners to enjoy, mutual concept is the key lest that will turn to be something else. Your husband will enjoy the love play only if you present it to him without grudge and indignation. Never exchange your sex for presents from your husband. After all, will it be really logic if you did so? How many presents would you have received if that ever worked?

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As a man, you need to put away your ego in order for you to enjoy sex in your marriage. There are good times that you are likely to enjoy your woman right to the core of your heart from whatever place as long as it is in your home. This is especially is you do your best to arouse your partner to reach her orgasm. Doing this from the earlier times of the day can yield good results later when both of you are ready for the act.

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A couple sun bathing on a tropical climate.

There will be a few times however that will prove challenging to both of you. The world’s economic constraints that torment us every other day, families to take care of, job insecurity, personal problems; health issues and the monthly menstrual cycle that befall women to mention but a few. When the latter happen, especially if the man is health and sound, it can pose a challenge on your patience and endurance. Will you wait until she is done with her filth? That is the question.

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I advice that you agree in advance, that when that happens, you are sure to wait until she is done with her periods. After all, you have over 20 days to enjoy your partner. When all this is done, be sure to enjoy sex in its right place-marriage. It is your matrimonial right, so have it to the full without infringing your partner’s rights.

Who Is a Gentleman?

                                                                                                

CLEAN water is crystal clear with less or no odor at all. A rainbow is evident from its distinct colors. The sun is so bright in a broad day light that no human eye can dare to gaze at its illumination. These examples just tell us exactly what other things are really like no matter where or who you are.

 

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In the world around however, people’s traits differ greatly from one person to the other. All these are inevitable. Human beings were created with diverse abilities that all put together blend to become a perfect yet complex society that we live in. That is man. These behaviors are distinct yet important in one way or another. Others have strange traits, unique, appealing qualities that many admire; and still others show weird behaviors that amaze a multitude.

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All these are crucial in our everyday life and hardly can we escape from these traits especially those that are with a majority. We can however find some reason of joy because there are those who have had a profound reputation right from childhood. If you belong to this group, or at least if this is what your friends say about you, you deserve my warmest commendations. I recognize that you have put effort to gain that reputation. I therefore recommend you to all the other readers.

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According to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary 7^th edition page 621, a gentleman is defined as a man who is polite and well educated and has excellent manners and always behaves well. As you can see, there are virtues associated with being gentle. The virtues mentioned herein are: politeness, good behavior and manners. These are lacking in the world around us.

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A lot though is expected of a gentleman. Right from the manner you handle yourself in the house, with your family however small it is, the way you treat your spouse, your children if any; your siblings, parents, friends, colleagues both male and female and especially the latter; your boss, subjects….. All these will show how gentle you really are. Bending low to reach a child’s hand that is not long enough to reach yours is a clear gesture of courtesy that many don’t show in your neighborhood.
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Containing your voice even when scoffed at is hard, but it can tell all about your personality. Sometimes people spend a lot of resources in putting up some things in order, and the unfortunate thing befalls, are you going to raise alarm so as the culprit looks stupid? If you do this, I am sure you will be depicted “Mr. Smart” but in reality you ruin your reputation. Even if you have been wronged and believe that you have a legitimate reason to argue, do so in a polite way lest you will be deemed unreasonable.

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Yes, you are a true gentleman if you are approachable and are able to share whatever little you have with those in need especially women and children. This is a noble and rewarding course for those who practice it. It can be to you too. Look at how those known as gentle in your area handle their matters and you will also be able to leave a legacy and who knows, you might be the “savior” of your next door neighbor and they will be grateful for you hence you will also be included in this group of gentlemen.