How to Solve Marital Conflicts

Arguments are inevitable in every union under the sun. The only difference that exists between your relationship and mine is the degree at which my spouse and I argue. We may be very vocal on a daily basis, whereas you argue periodically thus the difference. It does not mean that our marriages are bound to fail, but this is a sign that things are either good or are going sour. It should be understood though that, as mentioned in the outset, in every relationship, there should be a difference in opinion between marriage partners, and this may lead to troublesome quarrels, heated arguments and at times this will result to either or both harboring resentment.

                                                                                                 “If you don’t,

                                                                        who then are you

                                                                reserving that precious time for?”

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Conflicts are not justifiable in any given set up. We may have differences in opinion that is based on facts and principles and this is guaranteed. However, it is not a leeway to having confrontations with our loved ones. After all, does it sound nice when your neighbors sleep and wake up every day with your arguments on petty issues? It doesn’t. Your neighbors deserve a little courtesy. To solve your marital arguments however, there are practical steps that you will definitely need to apply lest your marriage is doomed to collapse.

Communicate well with your mate

Communication is vital in every relationship. There is however a big difference between the normal chat that exist among peers, colleagues at work, acquaintances and your partner. Your spouse deserves quality, healthy intimate discussion at time from perfectly chosen rendezvous. Create time to talk to your spouse about anything especially what might be stressing. It is agreeable that the social dynamism that we are experiencing in the world may not give you time to speak to your spouse as it allowed you a couple of years ago, but you have to create that time for your partner. If you don’t, who then are you reserving that precious time for?

Have time for your mate

Visit a serene place like this  and have fun with your spouse.
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More than anybody else including your boss, exclusive of your children if there, your mate requires your time. This time is different from what we have been speaking in the preceding paragraph. This is meant to nurture the love you have had, reflect on any shortcomings and challenges that you have had overtime, and deliberate on ways to combat similar challenges in future. Many a times, you may find it wise to settle on a vacation in the Kenyan coastal town of Malindi. I am specific because of reasons that I will mention here in forthcoming articles. You can swim together, wad in the shallow waters with your hand gentle holding your spouse, and by doing these you are confirming and affirming your love.

Forgive your mate

Arguments emanate from misunderstandings that come as a result of one mate not meeting particular standards set by the other. Be it as it may, the set standards are not holy, lofty and are prone to selfish dispositions. If your partner therefore fails to meet given standards that you strongly feel that they shouldn’t have, prudence calls for asking why things were done otherwise. Having satisfactorily looked at your mate’s reason of resorting into doing so, you may then decide to forgive knowing that nobody yes no man is perfect for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God thus susceptible to error. Forgive you mate and move on. Tomorrow it might be you failing to meet the standards laid and agreed by both of you sometimes on paper.

Why Rich People Don't Find Love

"The rich also cry". Many people are familiar with that simple quote that has much in it. Whether it relates with the theme or not, the rich cry and indeed mourn for love. They will never enjoy what you and I have in surplus. If you belong to the group that I am addressing today, don’t panic for your pay day is around the corner. You however need to do something. You will need to get yourself out of that cocoon. You aren't too big to be admonished, learn and earn that love.

 

You may own an expensive brand of car like the one
above, but without a lovely partner, no enjoyment.

Love is inevitable. After all, no man is an island. We were created in a manner that we need to be loved, cared for and at least however poor we may be at heart, we give thus enjoying the benefits of a real cheerful giver. You may not be having those good looks, catchy figure worthy romance or even the language to seduce, but you may be the right source of joy to the other party.

Why though is it difficult for those with money yes money not to access what you and I have in plenty? To answer that question, I humbly invite you to walk with me for a few steps backward. This way, we may be able to advice and probably help our siblings get what they have missed for such a long time.

 

The rich think that since they dominate the largest surface area-have their names in virtually every book, stock market and the like, lack nothing. So, they claim as did one rich man in the Bible in Jesus’ parable. “Now that I 

A couple enjoying themselves. Behind every successful man,
there is a woman and vice versa. 

have gathered all these food in the stores, let me sit back and enjoy...” The man in that example did not live to enjoy since he lacked one vital thing-love for Jehovah. You too need be loved for you to be complete. 

 

In fact, for you to get what your colleagues are wadding in, there are a few quick tips:

 

1. Accept that you are a human being.

2. You too need company from a partner.

3. Giving is more rewarding than receiving.

4. Monies have drastic definite end but love doesn't.

5. It shows how inhuman and selfish you are-this is bad for your colleagues who know how much you posses.

6. By having the love of your heart, you won’t lose even a penny.

I have your best interests at heart. Never have I ever thought that celibacy that is brought about by money can be legitimized in any condition. Adjust your goals and expectations and who knows, you will be my reader’s adviser the next time I visit this page.

How Superstition Is Connected With Prostitution

Over time, man and woman have always wanted the most of what they have spent on either party for a good reason. Whichever degree of what you are looking for anyway; there must also be a limit however you may want to legitimize your obscene acts. It has emerged that prostitution has gone digital. I have been told by my colleagues that they have better name-commercial sex workers. Well, wherever suits them better is what we will use. After all, the business has been commercialized in many backstreets of most major cities around the world be it be NY, Rio, Manchester, Mumbai; Jo'burg or Nairobi.

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Ready hot chicks on hot spots in the city near you.

Granted, it is a willing giver a willing taker. That literally means that there exists mutual concept between the two parties. The whole fiasco starts with a man giving a call to the house informing the wife of a late business deal even emergency that has to be addressed lest the company’s reputation will be trounced. I love these “business” ideas. How I wish they were harnessed for the better of the corporate world. Our nations would be moving at a bomber’s speed to hit its target.

                         “As busy as you are, she

                         agrees that you leave to catch

                   up with your family before it's midnight.”

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Thankfully, this new deal will see both parties afford a big smile on their face.  For one, it will be elusive but for the other, permanent. Good things come out of toil. Isn’t it? After that call to the house, the man gets the go ahead to seal the deal that has emerged. Yes, he has the full support of family members who are waiting for him in the house later that evening once the deal is over. After all, home is a couple of minutes drive from the office during the off-peak hours. 

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Upon arrival at a usual den in the backstreet where there is an ample parking, the man’s chores are in a KISS slogan-keep it simple and short. This way, it is manageable. He just lowers his window to see who catches the eye and before long, they flock at the side like a swarm of bees looking for some nectar. Indeed they have it. Using some of the literal muscle, one outwits others to open the door that was at ajar, pops in and there you go with your newest catch.

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Unfortunately, there is a new strategy employed by the ladies that keeps you going back. And before I tell it to you, promise me that you are not going to let them know. But whatever you are planning to do, I decide to share with you what has been discovered since I am a brother’s keeper. The truth is, whether you like it or not, you are going back after you first stepped on that street. But there is a way out. You, however, need to apologize to your first lady. She will forgive you if you are remorseful.

There is ample parking for you Range Rover Sport.

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Commercial sex workers have found a new way to make sure that once you have set your eyes on their thighs, you will keep going back for more as long as they are available. They do this when you are totally careful so as not to infect your family which they strongly back with hidden agendas aimed at benefiting them. They insist that you use protective measures during the act probably a good quality female and male condom. Isn’t it a noble idea? 

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All these are aimed at reaching your semen after you are done with her. As busy as you are, she agrees that you leave to catch up with your family before it's midnight. She argues; let me throw this dirt away. Granted, there is a dustbin behind you where she turns and dumps them before your eyes. Hardly do you know that after you exit, she will come back to your “forgotten” sperm, for a special ritual that will keep you coming back as long as you are energetic. This is where prostitution meets superstition. Without your knowledge, your semen lands in the able hands of a witch doctor who performs the chemistry that you once learnt in high school when a young boy that you have forgotten. By doing this, she would have had potential clients in her business.

Attention Seekers on a Wrong Platform

This perfectly describes our ladies in colleges. From hairstyles, fancy attires to loose bras these are what there lecturers face each day when they are before them. I am not saying that this is what all the girls in campus do or wear, but at least you can agree with me that most of them aim at something deep down their hearts and mind. Let us try to figure out what exactly they are after then we will advice our male lecturers.
  
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A decently dressed college girl in Montreal CA

Most of these ladies are aged between 18 and 24. At this age, they are trying to get out of their comfort zones in order to explore what you did not do when you were at that age. Granted, we live in a digital era where everything seems to be trending in your own way. Basically, everyone wants to be known in her own way. After all, who doesn’t want to be recognized as a celeb? Most of these ladies if not all, have directly out of high school uniform and want to taste the sweetness of college’s free style cladding. I am also one of those who hated to be confined in one color of dress Monday through Friday with an exception of only Sunday.

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Now that they are in campus, they do as they want-wear, walk, talk, eat name them I warmly welcome you to this liberated lifestyle that has a limit though. Look at this; the men you almost go nude for are either your next door neighbors in the village where you put up, siblings or your friend’s siblings; relatives and to crown it all, most are married and probably with children of your age. Is there point then for you to walk half nude before these?

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If you happen to be in such a scenario, kindly pause and ask yourself if this is a worthy course. In essence, what did you come to search for in college? I doubt if it is to be known but to gain skills for your future. My sister, don’t lose the track for many have walked down that slippery ground and have fallen with no one to raise them up. Remember this too. Your male teachers have been here for many years others since the school started offering this education and so, many have passed through their able hands. So how many “super ladies” have they seen? Who are you to change what? What do you have that others did not posses? You have the answers. 

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Some attention seekers distract male lecturers with their loose
tops like this above, making it ideally difficult for the teachers
 to concentrate.

My fellow lecturers, you are not innocent either. You are also catalysts to this phenomenon. I don’t mean all of you. In fact I know of a few that are super gentle, responsible family heads, fathers and guardians. You have my innermost commendations. At least I associate with you. Those that are the likes of these girls on the other hand, receive my rebuke. You have come to nurture our ones to the next level. Your level of education dictates that you should be a “smart” person. Live to that. Remember that there are quite a number of literates that yearn to have a chance to inculcate certain values to these girls but have not been fortunate enough to get it but you did. Help them gain the skills thematically. 

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Meanwhile, I suggest that you focus on your delivery not on their dress code. Stand behind the lecture hall as you preside over the lesson. This way, it may help calm your stimulation.